Quitting
Big S & I are between a rock and a hard place. J just started playing football this year. I hated the idea from the start but he wanted to try it. When practice started 2 weeks ago it was 4 days a week for an hour and a half. Most of this time its been with pads. I thought that was a little much for 7-8 year olds but I am a mom and who am I to say. we are now in our 3rd week of practice and J hates it. Still loves the game per say, but hates him playing. J is for sure a great little athlete, loves baseball the most, and is an outdoorsy kind of boy. He's not a lightweight, but has just figured out that football is not his "thing." Which is great with me, I have fears of injuries on the field with mom looking on in horror being held back by dad because you just don't let moms run out on fields to kiss the boo boo's away. For 2 days now he has pitched an all out fit about not wanting to go to practice and wants to quit. In his defense he is starting a brand new school, getting use to getting up early again, and he is absolutely worn out. So are mom and dad. He comes in unwantingly does homework, gets ready for practice, gets home at 7:30ish, eats, bath, bed. Not the best schedule for a little boy that likes to play. Our dilemma is...do we let him quit?? Big S says no way, he did not raise a quitter. I say I remember having my first job at Athletic Attic, hated it and quit in 2 weeks, didn't cause me to want to quit other things or damage me in any way. We tried to get him to finish out practice this week, play in the jamboree on Sat. then decide. I say after the first tackle by a 120 lb 8 year old that he would want to quit on the spot. Bad thing is Aunt Trace has purchased Miss M the cutest "cowboys" cheerleader uniform to wear to the games. Then again, its not all about Miss M.


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Oh Dee I am so sorry! What a rough place to be in! I was a ballet teacher for a while until the kids came and...well you know how that goes. I always would encourage moms to "help" their girls finish the year BUT I also told the moms that I didn't want the kid to grow up saying she "hated" ballet and had the worst teacher. If I, as the kid's teacher, could tell they were miserable then I would tell the parents I understand and only wanted their kid to be happy and not grow up to hate ballet, all while wishing them well as they went out the door. Now with that all said...as a mom I have to stop and ask my boys when they are part of a team,"is the team counting on you?" Are there enough kids to cover his position? Would the team fall apart if he quit? I understand S too. I don't like quitters either! :) I'll join you guys and pray too! And I'll pray God gives a clear answer. Best of luck...let me know the outcome.
Marty
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement and mostly your prayers. As of today, J said he would go to practice and try the game on Sat (even though he will probably sitting this one out due to missing practice). By the time he comes in from school that may have changed. I feel like everything we do,good or bad, is scarring our children some how. I just don't want to let the good Lord down in this parenting thing. Thanks again. D
How did I miss you working at Athletic Attic? Was that during my "lost years"? Hmmmmm...
We had a similar dilemma with summer softball. We didn't want the kids to think that quitting after committing was okay. Yet we realized that maybe we just made a poor choice for the time being. I think had I prayed about it (even such a trivial thing as that), that maybe we would have seen the error in our thinking.
Pray, pray, pray! God will show you what to do. Yes, the Word says let your yes be yes and your no be no. But was this "yes" something God would have J do at THIS time. If it effects his time, to the point that it might distract from his studies or scripture memorization, it's worth rethinking. Was the "yes" more of a S yes than a J yes? At this age, it takes awhile to determine what interests our kids will develop...all a part of weeding through to find the ones they should pursue.
Not that you asked, but Aunt R thinks of J as a baseball player...besides they look better in those uniforms! Love that kid...I think he'll be great at anything he puts his heart and mind to! (Now...lets have some Little S stories!)
Oh, my!! I found you! Enjoyed reading your posts! I want an update because G told me the cutest story about your son making an awesome tackle. Can't wait to hear more!
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